Rewire: Mindful Sexual Wellness Group

A shame-free, non-moralizing recovery group for problematic porn use

If porn use is starting to feel compulsive, isolating, or out of line with who you want to be, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

Rewire is a supportive therapy group for adults who want to change their relationship with porn in a way that is practical, sex-positive, queer-affirming, and free from purity culture or moral judgment. This group is about helping you build real skills, shrink shame, and reconnect with your values.

Who This Group Is For

This group may be a good fit if you’re noticing any of the following:

  • You feel stuck in a porn habit you can’t seem to control

  • Porn use is affecting your mood, focus, sleep, or motivation

  • You’re using porn to cope with stress, loneliness, anxiety, or numbness

  • Your porn use feels in conflict with your values or relationships

  • You’ve tried to stop or cut back but keep returning to it

  • You feel shame, secrecy, or dread after using porn

  • You want support that doesn’t pathologize sexuality

You do not need to identify as an “addict” to join. We’ll use language that fits your experience.

What We Mean by “Problematic Porn Use”

Porn isn’t automatically bad. For many people, it’s neutral or even enjoyable.
We focus on when porn becomes:

  • Compulsive (hard to stop even when you want to)

  • Avoidant (used to escape emotions, stress, or intimacy)

  • Costly (hurting relationships, self-worth, or daily functioning)

  • Out of alignment with your values or identity

This group supports change without shame and without assuming there’s only one “right” way to relate to porn or sexuality.

What You’ll Work On in Group

We combine evidence-based approaches (ACT, CBT, DBT, and mindfulness) with a grounded, real-life focus.

Topics include:

Understanding What’s Driving the Habit

  • dopamine and the brain’s reward loops

  • stress, trauma, anxiety, ADHD, depression, loneliness

  • the difference between desire, coping, and compulsion

Skills for Real Change

  • identifying triggers and patterns

  • urge surfing and distress tolerance

  • values-based behavior (ACT)

  • cognitive tools for shame, self-talk, and relapse cycles

  • building replacement habits that actually stick

Rebuilding Connection

  • intimacy, avoidance, and relationship repair

  • communication and boundaries

  • reconnecting with pleasure in a way that feels healthy and chosen

Shame Reduction & Self-Compassion

  • moving from secrecy to honesty

  • reducing the “after-porn crash” spiral

  • treating yourself like a human, not a problem